Expectations

This question suddenly came to my mind and Im gonna share on how I feel.

There is a difference between someone who never had a relationship before and someone who had before.

People thinks that it should be equal but why? When another partner had one before he/she actually expect more in return because they have been through a lot. However, it is unfair, because you expect more different things coming from the opposite partner but moving on to the other side. When he/she never had one before, they actually have higher expectations as compare to the other side. Both have their expectations and when they don't get to understand one another well enough to actually compromise things. That's when an argument happens, isn't? Some may think that its maturity that makes its changes but why no one thought that it is the experience that makes a differents in things/situations? Someone who experiences sadness and happiness they felt before, they tend to cherish more. However for someone who doesn't know anything, new in everything, tends to live in their world and not knowing what to do, what to say, what to hold on. Stubbornness tends to kick in and like it in their way of doing things/ making decisions. Why expect more from somebody instead of compromise things, give and take, expect less and give more to one another? Building beautiful things and memories instead of quarreling to solve problems. When the other partner take it too far or serious why not try the soft approach and make things happen? Every one of us has their soft spot for weakness, why not start something and move on from there. I definitely believe that when you put in the effort with sincerity, the other partner will do the back same to you because whatever you do, it reflects the other side. If you go hard on someone, they will do the same in return.

Moral of the story,
Understand the person well enough before you make a decision. If that person meant a lot to you, you wouldn't want to start a quarrel/fight with them.